As many of you know, Chad — my partner and best friend of 8 years — tied the knot late last month. We’d like to thank everyone who shared the special day with us (and thankyou cards will be in the mail shortly, we promise :), and hope everyone had a wonderful time. I know our memories will last a life time.

I know for many it was their first same-sex wedding, and hopefully won’t be their last. Unless of course Proposition 8 passes in November, and that my friends, is the hangover.

If Proposition 8 passes, all same-sex weddings in the state of California will come to an end, and may invalidate our own wedding, as well as all gay and lesbian weddings since June of this year. While polls look favorable at the moment, a 50% plus majority rejecting the measure, a lot can change between now and November. If you can, visit NOONPROP8.COM and lend your support.

On a brighter note, we have finally posted our engagement and wedding photos, leading up to and including the ceremony. Post-ceremony pictures will follow later in the week.

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I encourage everyone who has time on Sunday to come on out and join us. Bring your family, your friends. And if you can’t, support some who is walking.
Like me for instance.

It really does make a difference.

Looking back on Pride there was plenty to be proud of, but one thing in particular stands out.

We can now say “I do”.  

Many of us have waited a long time to be able to say those words and have it mean something. Some almost their entire lives. And it is they I am most proud of this Pride. Their tenacity, their patience and their strength have made the world more equal for all of us.

It was no surprise that many of them marched in this year’s parade, and the event was richer for it. I will remember this year’s Pride for a long, long time.

View photos from this year’s San Francisco Pride parade.

Yesterday was quite the day…

At 5:01PM on June 16, gay marriage became legal in California.

While I have never been an active proponent of gay marriage (partly because I feel it cost us the election in 2004, and I rank other issues facing the country ahead of it), I am glad this day has come. 

It was a typical, overcast day in San Francisco, cold and dreary. Shortly after 5pm I ambled up to the front of the crowd across from City Hall and took the scene in. It was a large crowd of course, the vast majority voicing their support for gay marriage, while the minority were self-righteous and indignant as they held up bigger signs.

Looking around I found myself standing close to members of the infamous Westboro Baptist Church, holding aloft some of the most hateful signs in the crowd. They were wedged into a small space by a pair of barricades like caged animals. Not to protect us, but to protect them. As I looked over at them, it was a struggle not to hurl all kinds of colorful metaphors in their direction. Others however did not share my restraint. But those bigots didnt deserve the attention they so desperately craved, so I ignored them.

Instead I focused instead on the brides and grooms as they came out onto the steps of City Hall. Each time they waved the cheers in the crowd would swell, drowning out the vitriolic cries of hate and intolerance. And the warmth and happiness on each of their faces, took the edge off the damp weather, making the protestors small, and less relevant. I choked up a little. 

Below is some video from the event. Apologies in advance for some of the harsh audio (turn your speakers down). Hopefully it will give you a taste of what happened…

Since the ruling we have been asked many times if Chad and I were going to get married. I always smile and say maybe next year, provided the anti-gay marriage initiative fails in November.

But if you ask me again tomorrow… I might have a different answer.